Wednesday, January 25, 2006

This one goes out to the one I love ...

I was been tagged by Quills in January but I was been busy with a lot of things to do this till now.(More details at the end of the post). Thanks Quills for tagging me and being patient for this post since it is now almost three months since the tag.

Rules of the game are:
1. The tagged victim has to come up with 8 different points of their perfect lover.
2. Need to mention the sex of the target.
3. Tag 8 victims to join this game & leave a comment on their comments saying they ha’ve been tagged.
4. If tagged the 2nd time, there i’s no need to post again.

Sex of the target : Female
Most people I have seen do this tag are looking for a "Perfect" lover. I wish to approach this differently in that I am looking for a woman perfect for me.

Here are my requirements in no particular order of importance they are all important.

  1. Needs to appreciate romance in general, must like romantic movies, must like love songs, poetry and appreciate chivalrous actions.
  2. She has to be able to talk to me about anything and everything ...and I should feel comfortable talking about everything with her. Should be able to talk intelligently ... no dumb blondes need to apply.
  3. She must have one or more passions, hobbies or interests that she is really into. It doesn't need to be anything I have as a hobby...though shared hobbies would be fun as well. Interest in some form of art is a definite plus.... being artistic is a definite plus plus.
  4. Needs to be balanced in everything and be open to try new should like staying at home and going out :-). Watch all types of movies (action,comedy,romance) or at least be okay with me watching many car/bike/action movies :-) and be open to listen to a lot of different types of music ... as I do that.
  5. She should be self made in the sense she worked hard through studies (school & college) and got into a job(s) all through her own merit and not because of her parents wealth or connections. She should have experienced ups and downs in life and has learned from it but isn't bitter about life. It could be any type of job with any kind of pay but she should have worked and seen what working life is and not be someone relaxing and killing time on her parents wealth...sorry Im not rich and cant offer such luxuries :-) so she should identify with a regular working bloke as me. She should be able to balance her work and still have time for fun ... something I have trouble with :-).
  6. She is allowed to have a couple of irrational fears and worries(who doesn' have these) but in general should be a realist in facing what life throws at her ..being able to rationalize what comes her way and not go around trying to fool herself and others that everything is ok when it is not or that everything is messed up when it is in fact ok. Should be able to ask for help when needed.
  7. Looks- yes looks are important .... my requirement here is that the person has no missing human features AND looks good :-) to ME. I don't care what the rest of the world may think about her looks ...but she should look nice to me. She should be comfortable in her own appearance and not rely too much on camouflage like makeup :-). Some amount of makeup is fine but pancake type makeup is a no-no.
  8. Must have similar beliefs about religion, family values etc. No fanatics need apply ... everything in moderation always.
This tag chain will be broken in the sense I cant think of anyone who is still single(dont want to get the married folks in trouble) and hasnt asnwered this already.

PS: I have finally met "her" (someone who met and exceeded my 8 points listed above) . Her name is "T". We are getting engaged in April and married in July (since the folks came to know about it... we cant elope :-( ) we have to wait it out ). So am really busy with work and getting all the prep for the engagement and wedding and of course spending as much time as possible with her :-) .

Thanks again Quills because while I was thinking of posting this in January I was able to realise I knew exactly what I was looking for and that I also knew exactly the person who exceeded these requirements of mine.

"T" this post is dedicated to you it is about you. Am very happy to have met you and I do believe meeting you is one of the best things that has happenned to me in a long time. I had this in my mind for a long time ...and had even typed this out in January ... didnt post it till now.

Tuesday, January 17, 2006

Exit Loneliness @WWW

An interesting and sad article from the Economic Times. It talks about how older people have become adept at using the WWW to keep loneliness at bay.

As much as the older folk pretend that they are fine with their living conditions there is no denying the fact that they miss their children who are "well settled" abroad in high paying jobs. These parents make do with the support of their local relatives, friends and neighbors and of course now the WWW.

To the dude who bought his father a laptop computer and his equally cool sister who bought their dad computer course material ... its a decent gift and must have cost a pretty packet and all that but it doesn’t replace being there with the folks and making sure they are doing okay specially in their old age when health issues begin to take over. Sending email and calling a couple of times a week do not suffice! I know I have no details of the reasons for the kids to be away from their parents but I still think it is not right to leave ones parents alone especially in their old age and that too several continents away.

Other countries may do things differently but I have seen how pathetic life is for people living in old-age/retirement homes (both in India and abroad). I agree old people can be cranky and difficult but the answer is not as simple as putting them in a home as soon as they cross 70 yrs in age. They need their privacy and freedom as everyone else but also need a lot of support of the emotional kind and not just the monetary kind at their age.

Category: brain drain rant

More Poos Padams

Coming up with titles is increasingly difficult so am re-hashing my old post title. These were shot at home in Chennai:

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Category: Photo Flower Macro

Landscape Photos

Thought I would start my first post for 2006 on a positive note. The following are two of several pictures I took when I went to California in 2003 (I went only because my close friend Rajesh & his wife Padmaja insisted).I have to thank them once again for taking me to such awesome places and for their amazing hospitality when I was there.

There was an end of year photo contest for our division at work and ... I got first place for these two photos (luckily the theme was natural beauty and since the only restriction was that the photos should have been taken by the person submitting them it was good for me). The prize was a gift receipt for a local restaurant. I did get a kick out of the fact that finally I won something for my photos.

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Category: Photo